Nerds and dating
I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.Marriageable Black women outnumber marriageable Black men by the millions.Which bills are they paying to have this much power in your life?Candice: Despite the popularity of shows like , do you think that interracial relationships still face a stigma in pop culture and society? However, with in particular, there’s some elements of the old stereotype of a Black woman waiting in the wings for a white man who already has his white wife and family. I like that in both shows the Black women are able to express a full spectrum of emotions.When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!
Candice: Why do you think there are so many Black women who don’t consider dating outside their race? Our country’s shameful history of slavery is often used as a club to beat Black women into submission about dating interracially, particularly when it comes to white men. I would say that if you’re the type of person who is overly concerned with what other people think about your life, then interracial dating is not for you.Learn more about Christelyn via her blog, Beyond Black & White, and check out her book, Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed.It’s been a while since I’ve done a Nerds and Male Privilege column. Some of my favorite stories, the ones that moved me emotionally more than 99% of the canon of Western literature came from comics.I mean actual, real-life interracial relationships. Despite its higher representation on TV and in pop culture, this is still a taboo subject, and one that is often met with a range of emotions that are not always positive.
So I decided to talk to interracial relationship expert, Christelyn Karazin, Brand Ambassador for Interracial Dating Central.com, who gave her thoughts on the subject and why she is an interracial dating advocate particularly for Black women.Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.