Dating somenone with bipolar disorder
There is a process that can help you move through the stages and its one I’ve used with great effectiveness: If you are the one to end the relationship, you may at first see some upset in your Narcissist. They may say and do exactly what they think you want hear. These men are accomplished actors, at this point you have heard it all before and you have watched all of their promises go unfulfilled.
They may seem hurt, but they are not hurting for you. If you both live in your house, give him a firm date on when he is expected to move out.
Losing a major source of Narcissistic supply is a very stressful experience for a Narcissist. Cohabitating with a Narcissist, you are trying to free yourself from, is like a recovering alcoholic moving into a bar. Give him a date and if that date comes and goes and he’s still there, get the police involved and have him forcibly removed.
You may be thinking, that’s so harsh I don’t want to do that – trust me you have probably threatened to kick him out so many times, he has stopped taking you seriously. A Narcissist needs followers and the attention they bring, so you can expect to be bad mouthed and in the retelling to anyone that will listen, expect that he will spin it, so the story parleys you as the evil doer and our poor Narcissist as the victim.
If you have made it clear that you are done, don’t expect him to be pining over you.
It doesn’t mean that you have stopped caring, but it means that the rose coloured glasses have come off and reality is starting to set in.Getting from stage one to four doesn’t happen overnight.