19 year old dating a 14 year old
Unless I thought the relationship might actually be coercive in which case I'd set the cops on the older party's butt so fast their head would spin.
The 14 year old is a boy, and they met through Facebook friends.
I've informed DS that he will have a tracking app installed on his phone but we won't check it unless we have a reason to be concerned. I'm quite reluctant to tell him that I know he's dating an 18 year old because at the moment I have his facebook, phone and email passwords and he's agreed to have the tracking app on his phone. If going on her fb profile it may be that she has a different age also.
If something goes wrong, I am confident that he would call me or DH, but I suspect that as ceeshell said, going in guns blazing wouldn't help, and might make him clam up (no puns intended there ceeshell ). At 18 there is no way I would have looked at anyone under 17, unless they were doing an apprenticeship or working in a full time job outside of school. At 18, I was working in a corporate environment full time, and would have considered a 14 year old a child. I would play dumb and extend the invitation to a family meal, with the caveat, there will be no outings/socialising until this request is met.
Admitting to snooping means child will find another means of communication with their special friend and it might be harder for you to keep tabs on what was going on.
Are they members of the same sporting club or something?
I'm another who assumed it was a girl - mainly because it's a biological fact that females mature quicker than males so the opposite scenario seems much less likely.